Rant 1!

So for my first post I thought I would give a little advice on what not to say to people who have fertility issues. Over the years I have had some conversations with people about fertility and about me not falling pregnant. Some just want to help but don't know what to say, some who are uneducated in the subject, know it alls and complete dickheads!! So here is a list (in my opinion) of what not to say:- - Are you having enough sex/having sex at the right time??? Well I'd say after 11 years, yes there has been enough sex. Also the hundreds of pounds that has been spent on ovulation kits would indicate when was the right time. - When you stop trying it will happen! Really??? I mean let's stop having sex and see if I get pregnant!!! Yea that will work! - You could borrow my hubby/partner, I've had no problems getting pregnant lol!! Right, number 1 my husband isn't infertile I am, so he isn't the issue. Number 2, is it really appropriate to pimp your hubby out without his consent? And number 3, you're bloke isn't even that fit love, no way would I tap that! - Things happen for a reason!! Ok.........and what is the reason that we have been going through this horrific, shitty, emotional journey for all these years? Because I would just love to know. - It's God's plan! Holy fuck, this one annoys me sooooo much! I am not religious in the slightest so God means nothing to me. But if you do want to chat about God then why was his plan to make me suffer 2 miscarriages and years of hell? Well if this is God's plan, God can go fuck himself! - But it wasn't a real baby was it? (this was with regards to miscarriages). Well yes it was most definitely a baby and it was my baby!!! It may not have been what biology describes as a baby, but within that tiny bundle of cells was all of our hopes and dreams. - Be grateful for what you have got (meaning my daughter). Don't ever ever think that I am not grateful for my gorgeous, kind, funny, weird, caring, clever, freaky, amazing little girl. She is my world!!!! But just because I want to give her a sibling doesn't make me ungrateful! You wouldn't go up to someone with 2 kids and question why they have a second one as they should have been grateful for the first! - I feel so awful/upset/guilty about your infertility! Awwww poor you! If you feel like that just imagine how I feel at times!!!! Maybe you should ask sometimes. - Pregnancy announcements! Well basically just ring your infertile friend up and say 'I'm pregnant' and that's it. Common sense really but unfortunately common sense isn't always common!!!! Don't over think it, be mindful, be tactful and that's it! This is how I feel on these issues and not everyone will agree, but might be useful to some. Love Kay xxx